(05-13-2017, 04:27 PM)UniqueStranger Wrote: I think if she does have OCD then she can't help mentioning things that bother her, which I don't think is passive aggressiveness. I recall one of my son's friends (when they were teens) who has a high level of OCD. He had to mention to me that the way I arranged my cups in my cupboard were not symmetrical with how I arranged my glasses in another cupboard. My reply? Don't you boys have anything better to do than criticize the arrangement of cups in a cupboard? I really wanted to say "Get a job".
I think passive aggressiveness is a complex problem with roots in resentment.
Irrational thoughts and their alternatives:
1. “Speaking up for oneself is wrong or abrasive.”
~Not speaking up often causes more harm than good.
i have been under the impression men LIKE a women who speak up because they then know where they stand and they dont have to guess what the trouble is...
it took me years to understand men truly do not THINK the way females do
doesnt make them bad, its just different.
thank you Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus book!
truly one of the most helpful books in existence, imo.