(03-22-2018, 06:22 PM)UniqueStranger Wrote:  Sure, you can believe it was entirely you that put yourself on the spot you are in, but society gives us limited choices and hinders us in many aspects for growth. The rich get richer, the poor get poorer. It takes money to make money. Wages are not keeping up with the cost of living.

We are doing it all wrong.

Yes, you are quite right; those aspects do exist.

However, false paradigm fake "critical thinking" will not reach the needed solution,
which in my eyes should be using tech, wisdom and experience, to make all sub-units
as self-sufficient as possible while retaining comfort.

I am inclined to believe/suspect that this is about inevitable stages of the quite natural
evolution of consciousness itself. Power over others, or power over self.

Oh well...not smart enough to figure everything out

Just my 2c of speculation.

(03-22-2018, 04:45 PM)JayRodney Wrote:  

(03-22-2018, 04:38 PM)Octo Wrote:  I wonder what would be toxic femininity...

There's no such thing, now be still.

That was toxic reverse masculinity.

That's not even a thing.

It is now! We need to explore the toxicity of all genders. Doesn't that sound like fun?

(03-22-2018, 06:49 PM)Accidental Stoner Wrote:  

(03-22-2018, 06:22 PM)UniqueStranger Wrote:  Sure, you can believe it was entirely you that put yourself on the spot you are in, but society gives us limited choices and hinders us in many aspects for growth. The rich get richer, the poor get poorer. It takes money to make money. Wages are not keeping up with the cost of living.

We are doing it all wrong.

Yes, you are quite right; those aspects do exist.

However, false paradigm fake "critical thinking" will not reach the needed solution,
which in my eyes should be using tech, wisdom and experience, to make all sub-units
as self-sufficient as possible while retaining comfort.

I am inclined to believe/suspect that this is about inevitable stages of the quite natural
evolution of consciousness itself. Power over others, or power over self.

Oh well...not smart enough to figure everything out

Just my 2c of speculation.

Power over self is a long hard road for most people that can't find the time due to life's obligations or haven't really soul-searched.

This is a good place to start if we have the time and inclination.

Quote:Detaching from ‘reacting’; seeing someone has a problem and then trying to rescue them from it… leading to feelings of resentment when they aren’t grateful or act accordingly, which then leads to suppressed anger and persecution (co-dependents can often seem controlling and dominant), is the only way out.

The lack of reaction is often the best way to help anyone, and is the ultimate way to mirror back to them how they are acting.

People feed on each other’s reactions, and so if we are always reacting; answering questions as soon as they are asked, becoming angry when we are undermined or taken advantage of, each party will never find wisdom.

Becoming receptive and listening to the gaps between other’s words and actions leads to compassion for them. Then we become The Master; watching ourselves acting in these situations in order to learn from them, and detaching ourselves from taking it personally, more fully able to understand the soul’s purpose and the lessons we are here to learn.

https://fractalenlightenment.com/33318/l...-of-others

There's more to it than that, so much more, but this is a good start and it's what I try to practice now.

It is a very good place to start.

Many years ago I caught myself reacting, (getting worked up and angry), to situations that had not yet occurred. I realized then and there, I was doing dishes, that by doing that I was going to be angry and bitching already just by thinking something was going to be same shit different day.

I decided to quit that and do a reboot. Every moment is new, you don't have to keep replaying that shit in your mind.

It's especially stupid to react to things that have not yet happened and then blame someone else even if you may have caused it yourself by reacting shittily to begin with.

It's not doing the dishes, it's that others in the household are not doing their part and doing the dishes too...anyway that was me letting resentment brew and boil up when all I had to do was go on strike, which I did, and problem solved. Actually, I went on strike often for many things, but then again, I allowed them to begin in the first place due to my overly? cleanliness.

(03-23-2018, 06:15 PM)US nli Wrote:  It's not doing the dishes, it's that others in the household are not doing their part and doing the dishes too...anyway that was me letting resentment brew and boil up when all I had to do was go on strike, which I did, and problem solved. Actually, I went on strike often for many things, but then again, I allowed them to begin in the first place due to my overly? cleanliness.

True story, our dishwasher broke weeks ago and I am doing the dishes by hand, keyword "I". But I don't mind now because I am in a semi-retirement mode and now that I think about it, I think keeping my hands in soapy water every day helped me avoid getting the flu that everyone around me got. So bonus.

As for Jim Carrey's toxicity bubbling up onto a canvas, I think it is good he releases it and has a good look at it, then maybe, just maybe, he will realize that he like all of us have no control over what others do. We do, however, have control what we do, and maybe he should think about protesting in ways that get positive results (hopefully).

(03-23-2018, 06:15 PM)US nli Wrote:  It's not doing the dishes, it's that others in the household are not doing their part and doing the dishes too...anyway that was me letting resentment brew and boil up when all I had to do was go on strike, which I did, and problem solved. Actually, I went on strike often for many things, but then again, I allowed them to begin in the first place due to my overly? cleanliness.

No it didn't have anything to do with dishes at all. In fact, I find doing mundane tasks lets the mind wander freely, thus stumble upon great realizations about oneself if you allow it to stroll around inside.

welll ,,,,,,,,,,

I do my part by not stirring up as much sh_t as I could stir up . so there .
I mean , I can cause some sh_t man ,,,

be thankful and go forth without multiplying .
thank you

Yes thank you CA, we're grateful

yeah , well , I get to stir a lot of Sh_t around here in live time ,,,

otherwise ,,, know what saying ? LOL

youse is Welcome

hey , truth is , I'm with really really good friends here ,, not Portland Freaks ,
so I'm always in a good mood while here .

plus , my House is here , so all my toys are too , which means I get
to play with the toys a lot ,,, happy hippie

Googled 'portland freaks'

just for fun:

https://goo.gl/images/XuUkqh

Accidental
I've met him , swear ta gawd .

oh fekk funny , how'd you find Jed ? google ?
or are you in Portland ?

LOL too unreal .