How Facebook can …………… Notice to my friends:
Here's where you and I went wrong: We took our friendship online. First we began communicating more by email than by phone. Then we switched to "instant messaging" or "texting." We "friended" each other on Facebook, and began communicating by "tweeting" our thoughts.
All this online social networking was supposed to make us closer. And in some ways it has. Thanks to the Internet, many of us have gotten back in touch with friends from high school and college, shared old and new photos, and become better acquainted with some people we might never have grown close to offline.
But there's a danger here, too. If we're not careful, our online interactions can hurt our real-life relationships. It’s not just me; many people, are experiencing Facebook Fatigue.
But let's face it, the problem is much greater than which tools we use to communicate. It's what we are actually saying that's really mucking up our relationships.
This brings us to our first dilemma: amidst all this heightened chatter, we're not saying much that's interesting, folks, rather, we're breaking a cardinal rule of companionship.
A few like to post several times a day about what they are eating: 'I just ate a pie.' 'I am enjoying a barbecue at home tonight.' 'Just ate a whole pizza with sausage, peppers and double cheese,'" The question is this: If we didn't call each other on the phone every time we ate before, why do we need the alerts now?"
Others, boredom aren’t the biggest challenge of managing Internet relationships. For example, people you know often seem different online—not just more polished, but bolder, too, displaying sides of their personalities you have never seen before.
And then there's jealousy. In all that information you're posting about your life—your vacation, your kids, your promotions at work, even that meal you just had — someone is bound to find something to envy. When it comes to relationships, such online revelations can make breaking up even harder to do.
Facebook prolongs the period it takes to get over someone, because you have an open window into their life, whether you want to or not, you see their updates, their pictures and their relationship status.
Facebook can also be a mecca for passive-aggressive behaviour. Suddenly, things you wouldn't say out loud in conversation are OK to say because you're sitting behind a computer screen.
So what's the solution, short of "unfriending" or "unfollowing" everyone who annoys you? You can use the "hide" button on Facebook to stop getting your friends' status updates—they'll never know— But these are really just Band-Aid tactics. To improve our interactions, we need to change our conduct, not just cover it up. First, watch your own behaviour, asking yourself before you post anything: Is this something I'd want someone to tell me?
And positively reward others, responding only when they write something interesting, ignoring them when they are boring or obnoxious. Commenting negatively will only start a public war.
“Our lives are not our own. From womb to tomb, we are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.” ― David Mitchell