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12-01-2014, 10:46 AM #1
Cloud Atlas Member
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This is the most interesting for Facebookers; it hits the nail right on:

How Facebook can …………… Notice to my friends:

Here's where you and I went wrong: We took our friendship online. First we began communicating more by email than by phone. Then we switched to "instant messaging" or "texting." We "friended" each other on Facebook, and began communicating by "tweeting" our thoughts.

All this online social networking was supposed to make us closer. And in some ways it has. Thanks to the Internet, many of us have gotten back in touch with friends from high school and college, shared old and new photos, and become better acquainted with some people we might never have grown close to offline.

But there's a danger here, too. If we're not careful, our online interactions can hurt our real-life relationships. It’s not just me; many people, are experiencing Facebook Fatigue.

But let's face it, the problem is much greater than which tools we use to communicate. It's what we are actually saying that's really mucking up our relationships.

This brings us to our first dilemma: amidst all this heightened chatter, we're not saying much that's interesting, folks, rather, we're breaking a cardinal rule of companionship.

A few like to post several times a day about what they are eating: 'I just ate a pie.' 'I am enjoying a barbecue at home tonight.' 'Just ate a whole pizza with sausage, peppers and double cheese,'" The question is this: If we didn't call each other on the phone every time we ate before, why do we need the alerts now?"

Others, boredom aren’t the biggest challenge of managing Internet relationships. For example, people you know often seem different online—not just more polished, but bolder, too, displaying sides of their personalities you have never seen before.

And then there's jealousy. In all that information you're posting about your life—your vacation, your kids, your promotions at work, even that meal you just had — someone is bound to find something to envy. When it comes to relationships, such online revelations can make breaking up even harder to do.

Facebook prolongs the period it takes to get over someone, because you have an open window into their life, whether you want to or not, you see their updates, their pictures and their relationship status.

Facebook can also be a mecca for passive-aggressive behaviour. Suddenly, things you wouldn't say out loud in conversation are OK to say because you're sitting behind a computer screen.

So what's the solution, short of "unfriending" or "unfollowing" everyone who annoys you? You can use the "hide" button on Facebook to stop getting your friends' status updates—they'll never know— But these are really just Band-Aid tactics. To improve our interactions, we need to change our conduct, not just cover it up. First, watch your own behaviour, asking yourself before you post anything: Is this something I'd want someone to tell me?

And positively reward others, responding only when they write something interesting, ignoring them when they are boring or obnoxious. Commenting negatively will only start a public war.

“Our lives are not our own. From womb to tomb, we are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.” ― David Mitchell
12-01-2014, 11:33 AM #2
White Ribbon call me
Posts:9,779 Threads:371 Joined:Apr 2013
just delete facefuck.. its a disease..
12-01-2014, 11:55 AM #3
misterbumps Member
Posts:1,051 Threads:38 Joined:Apr 2012
(12-01-2014, 10:46 AM)Cloud Atlas Wrote:  This is the most interesting for Facebookers; it hits the nail right on:

How Facebook can …………… Notice to my friends:

Here's where you and I went wrong: We took our friendship online. First we began communicating more by email than by phone. Then we switched to "instant messaging" or "texting." We "friended" each other on Facebook, and began communicating by "tweeting" our thoughts.

All this online social networking was supposed to make us closer. And in some ways it has. Thanks to the Internet, many of us have gotten back in touch with friends from high school and college, shared old and new photos, and become better acquainted with some people we might never have grown close to offline.

But there's a danger here, too. If we're not careful, our online interactions can hurt our real-life relationships. It’s not just me; many people, are experiencing Facebook Fatigue.

But let's face it, the problem is much greater than which tools we use to communicate. It's what we are actually saying that's really mucking up our relationships.

This brings us to our first dilemma: amidst all this heightened chatter, we're not saying much that's interesting, folks, rather, we're breaking a cardinal rule of companionship.

A few like to post several times a day about what they are eating: 'I just ate a pie.' 'I am enjoying a barbecue at home tonight.' 'Just ate a whole pizza with sausage, peppers and double cheese,'" The question is this: If we didn't call each other on the phone every time we ate before, why do we need the alerts now?"

Others, boredom aren’t the biggest challenge of managing Internet relationships. For example, people you know often seem different online—not just more polished, but bolder, too, displaying sides of their personalities you have never seen before.

And then there's jealousy. In all that information you're posting about your life—your vacation, your kids, your promotions at work, even that meal you just had — someone is bound to find something to envy. When it comes to relationships, such online revelations can make breaking up even harder to do.

Facebook prolongs the period it takes to get over someone, because you have an open window into their life, whether you want to or not, you see their updates, their pictures and their relationship status.

Facebook can also be a mecca for passive-aggressive behaviour. Suddenly, things you wouldn't say out loud in conversation are OK to say because you're sitting behind a computer screen.

So what's the solution, short of "unfriending" or "unfollowing" everyone who annoys you? You can use the "hide" button on Facebook to stop getting your friends' status updates—they'll never know— But these are really just Band-Aid tactics. To improve our interactions, we need to change our conduct, not just cover it up. First, watch your own behaviour, asking yourself before you post anything: Is this something I'd want someone to tell me?

And positively reward others, responding only when they write something interesting, ignoring them when they are boring or obnoxious. Commenting negatively will only start a public war.

I'm not on facebook (might be the only one!) but good article. I enjoyed reading it.

I can see by your coat my friend you're from the other side. Just one thing I got to know. Who won?
12-01-2014, 01:21 PM #4
JayRodney ⓐⓛⓘⓔⓝ
Posts:31,396 Threads:1,439 Joined:Feb 2011
It's alphabet honeypot I have no real interest in.

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12-01-2014, 01:55 PM #5
Octo Mother Superior
Posts:43,018 Threads:1,474 Joined:Feb 2011
I don't really see the point of it 13.gif
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12-01-2014, 03:55 PM #6
failboat Incognito Anonymous
 
let's open a facebook thread in which we post what we're doing right now at this very moment.


i'm making some frozen salami baguettes right now. i'll eat them in about 20 minutes. going to watch a movie on amazon instant video and read some stuff and post on kritterbox. burp...
12-01-2014, 04:09 PM #7
Octo Mother Superior
Posts:43,018 Threads:1,474 Joined:Feb 2011
I was just thinking about maybe baking some bread hmm.gif Warm bread with butter melting nomnom drool.gif

İmage
failboat Show this Post
12-01-2014, 04:12 PM #8
failboat Incognito Anonymous
 
i can't cook so i have to rely on frozen stuff or restaurants or fast food. :/
12-01-2014, 04:17 PM #9
Octo Mother Superior
Posts:43,018 Threads:1,474 Joined:Feb 2011
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12-01-2014, 04:24 PM #10
Cloud Atlas Member
Posts:532 Threads:98 Joined:Aug 2013
(12-01-2014, 03:55 PM)failboat Wrote:  let's open a facebook thread in which we post what we're doing right now at this very moment.


i'm making some frozen salami baguettes right now. i'll eat them in about 20 minutes. going to watch a movie on amazon instant video and read some stuff and post on kritterbox. burp...

OK girls, it's my turn,

me going for a swim

İmage

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“Our lives are not our own. From womb to tomb, we are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.” ― David Mitchell
12-01-2014, 04:29 PM #11
Octo Mother Superior
Posts:43,018 Threads:1,474 Joined:Feb 2011
Hello there!

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Status update: I'm having blueberries and yogurt
12-01-2014, 04:38 PM #12
misterbumps Member
Posts:1,051 Threads:38 Joined:Apr 2012
I've just been shopping. I've bought some Piri Piri Chicken, Vegetables, X2 Bottles of Water, X1 bottle of Cranberry juice, Wholemeal Bread and a Chocolate dessert.

İmage

I can see by your coat my friend you're from the other side. Just one thing I got to know. Who won?
12-01-2014, 04:41 PM #13
Octo Mother Superior
Posts:43,018 Threads:1,474 Joined:Feb 2011
You should perhaps take a selfie with your groceries. I always do.
12-01-2014, 05:24 PM #14
US nli Incognito Anonymous
 
Doesn't it really boil down to people being bored or lonely who are reaching out via online social forums? Maybe we all should 'read between the lines' and respond with even a "Hello, how are you doing?"
12-01-2014, 05:24 PM #15
misterbumps Member
Posts:1,051 Threads:38 Joined:Apr 2012
(12-01-2014, 04:41 PM)Octo Wrote:  You should perhaps take a selfie with your groceries. I always do.

lol

I can see by your coat my friend you're from the other side. Just one thing I got to know. Who won?



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